How to overcome self sabotage with ease: Help from a Hypnotist

The first step in overcoming self sabotage is acknowledging its existence. You’re here, so you’re heading in the right direction.

Self sabotage is the act of consciously or unconsciously undermining your goals, well-being, or success. You know what you want, and maybe even how to get there, but you’re engaging in behaviours and actions that don’t support your best interests.  

It often begins with a thoughts in your mind that elicits negative emotions and images. These thoughts and emotions (whether real or anxiety-driven) guide behaviour and actions.

Your negative thoughts create pathways in your brain. The same kind of pathways that allow you to drive to work each day without a second thought.

Disrupting these thought patterns and breaking the unfulfilling cycles in your life, career, and relationships is possible if you know how to leverage the power of your mind.

Most importantly, you don’t have to go it alone—and there are some easy shifts you can begin today to get heading in the right direction.

Book a hypnotherapy session with me to overcome self sabotage here.

Have you ever fought the internal battle between eating that last slice of cake and giving it a miss because you’re trying to lose weight? Or the thoughts about what to do with your relationship, as it makes you feel empty but at the same time secure. So many decisions, so much time and energy and all it creates is stress, stress and more stress. Two parts within you have conflicting wants and it can be tough to make the right choice.

Overcoming self sabotage begins with properly identifying it. It’s often the anxious feelings, stress, overwhelm, overthinking or burnout that have those parts of you so physically and emotionally drained. To cope, you place a mask on every morning to just get through the day. You are dragging yourself through life, on edge or even finding it difficult to focus on the day-to-day things. You feel like you’re in survival mode. You know there are parts of you that want to feel less stressed, more carefree, happy and with so much more certainty in life.

Sometimes it’s the other things that get in our way. The people pleasing, the drinking, overeating, hiding away from life, or you just keep going back to the same guy (or gal) and let him in, even though he’s not right for you. But it just feels much safer to do this, than really face what you have to face. You know you want to go back to being that secure, happy, fun, confident, independent woman again. That lost little part of you knows, it deserves all of this, and more.

Since you’re here, you’ve likely identified at least a few triggers and habits that aren’t serving you.

When you engage in the behaviours below, it may be sabotage in disguise:

• Procrastination
• Analysis paralysis
• Perfectionism
• Overdoing things
• Negative self-talk
• General negativity
• Fear of failure
• Excessive self-doubt
• Blame and shame
• Initiating conflict
• Giving up too soon
• Trying to control everything
• Excessive comparison
• Making excuses
• Gaslighting yourself and others
• Blame shifting/not taking responsibility
• Aiming too high
• Aiming too low
• Envy and/or jealousy
• Unhealthy self-soothing

Consciously identifying the root cause of the above behaviours is majority of the time very difficult to achieve, as we run most of our life through our subconscious mind.

Approximately 95 – 98% of our habits, behaviours, feelings, thoughts are driven by our subconscious mind. They are automatic patterns which we have learnt from a young age, which is why majority of the time cannot “think” our way of a problem. These childhood experiences were with family, friends, teachers, coaches, and other influential figures. Even how you experienced culture and society as a child.

Self sabotage when learnt from childhood, becomes a coping mechanism to cover over feelings and experiences we do not want to feel or remember, as the experience of these situations is too much. Unfortunately due to the nature of how our brain develops, it can make the situation rather difficult to resolve without the understanding of the subconscious mind.

When we are young our brain has not fully developed yet, so all experiences we have up to the age of 8 are taken in and stored in our subconscious mind as memories and ingrained patterns of behaviours, habits, thoughts and feelings. It can become such an ingrained pattern within us that we don’t know we are sabotaging ourselves or even how to stop, as it started all those years ago.

Overcoming self sabotage is something you can begin right now. There are several powerful ways you can start to reprogram your subconscious mind once you gain an deeper understanding on how it works.

Your subconscious mind works in pictures, images, imagination and feelings. It is not the thinking part of our mind but it’s where all the changes are made to help you achieve your dreams. 

An important point about the subconscious mind is it does not know the difference between real and imagined. When you watch a movie, even though the movie is not real you still get an emotional reaction from the various scenes. If it was a romantic heart-wrenching moment, we usually cry or a hard fast action-packed moment, our heart starts to beat faster. Right? Since we know this, we can use this knowledge and leverage off the power of our subconscious mind.

 Let’s start helping you make some changes to your life by helping you access your subconscious mind.

1. Amp Yourself Up

I want you to tell yourself, you’re amazing! Right here! Right now! Say it! I am amazing! I am beautiful! I am worth it! I deserve the best! I am worthy! I am incredible! These beautiful words are training your brain to show you, you are worth it. However, like a movie, we need an emotion to make it even more powerful. So combining the affirmations and positive emotions like you believe it, begins to reprogram your subconscious mind.

2. Relive A Time You Believed The Words Above

Go back to a time in your life when you felt amazing, beautiful, worth it or incredible. Make it into a movie as you remember this memory. Once you find this image/movie and you feel these feelings, start to repeat the words above like you mean it. Say the words and imagine them coming from your heart. Repeat as often as you like.

3. Recall a Moment of Pure Joy

Think back to a joyous and happy memory, in the recent or distant past. Make the memory as vivid and real as you can, using as many senses as you can, like a movie. Then repeat some words on how you feel in this moment. Say the words with compassion, meaning, love and all from your heart. Feel the feelings it creates in your body. It does not matter what “happy” words they are or how many. Just feel into the experience. Repeat it as often as you can. 

4. Get Present

Look around you and see something you really appreciate or lots of things you appreciate. As you look at that thing notice what word comes up in your head about this object. Feel into this feeling. Once you feel into this feeling. Connect it to another word that you are feeling now. Sit with this feeling for a while until another word and feeling comes to your mind. Repeat this process for a few minutes or until you feel amazing. Repeat as often as you like. Our mind loves synergy (the same thing working together) and repetition. It loves to be trained!

In situations where we are self- sabotaging, but can’t even switch out this behaviour to something more healthy and helpful, it there to show us and give us an answer to know exactly it’s something much deeper that needs to be dealt with.

We have tried all the different techniques and tools, we have tried positive self talk but nothing seems to shift this habit, that is where Hypnotherapy is your answer.

Hypnotherapy is a fast and powerful method of targeting your subconscious mind and the automatic patterns that seems to run on auto-pilot. 

Hypnotherapy sessions in Adelaide help by: 

• Locating the real reason (root cause) why you keep feeling like you do or acting like you do.
• Identifying your subconscious programs that are making you feel like you do.
• Working directly with the part of you that has the problem. Not just putting a band-aid over the issue and covering the symptoms..
• Transforming and healing your subconscious program.
• You’ll walk out feeling like you’ve never felt before. Glowing, shining and alive.
• You’ll directly understand how your thoughts affect your mind and body.
• You do not need to be re-traumatised by re-telling your story.
• You’ll understand the power of your mind and how to change it to live your best life.
• Negative thought and emotional patterns will be identified and you’ll be given tools to help with this when you leave.
• All negative emotions – including anxiety, depression, panic, fear and more will be eliminated.
• It will release 20, 30, or even 40 years of emotional baggage that you have been carrying. Imagine that weight being lifted! You will feel the change!
• You will leave with that part of you feeling empowered, supported, happier and more confident. And more! 

The self sabotaging behaviours and emotions above (anything really!) can be changed once you’re truly ready to put yourself first. Overcoming self sabotage can take more than one session, but if you are willing to change your life – anything is possible.

To find out more about how hypnotherapy can help you overcome your self sabotage, get in touch today.